All of us are probably familiar with this picture, but for those of us who aren't, this is a picture of George W. Bush Sr. and his son George W. Bush. The fact they have both become President of the U.S got my attention in the sense that it illustrates one of the most popular grand narratives, that is, fathers--instead of mothers--should be their sons' role models, or at least that male children should follow their fathers' footsteps.
Well, my story is a bit different: Even though my father is a very educated and brilliant man (He earned a PHD in philosophy from some prestigious university about 20 or 30 years ago), he doesn't have that much influence on me as opposed to my mother who, on the other hand, has only a Bachelor's degree in Psychology, but has had a huge influence on me. My parents separated a little while after my birth, but I got to spend time with both of them, and learned a lot from them. My mom went through A LOT of hard times; I remember back when I was a kid, she always used to tell my two brothers and me: 'We are going to get through this' every time life hit us hard. No matter how low she fell in life, he always got back on her feet and never gave up on us (her children), nor on her dreams, and that truly inspired me to be a fighter, to never stop till I get enough. My mom has had such a huge impact on my life that I got her name tattooed across my left arm so that I will never forget that. Both of my parents are significant figures in my life, but if one of them had to be my role model, it'd be my mother not because my dad hasn't educated me well enough, but because my mother has had more impact on my life than he has. I guess the well-known line 'like father like son' doesn't really fit the description here.
I think it's great how close you are to your mother. I like how much you appreciate her and give her recognition for everything she has done for you and taught you. The comparison you had between your mother-son relationship and the Bush's father-son relationship was an effective way to introduce your story.
ReplyDeleteThis points out something that I think is more common than we are all lead to believe. I have met many men who are more inspired by their mothers than they are their fathers, and many women who were more inspired by their fathers than their mothers. This fact is one that shows how, depending on the situation, one can become closer with either parent regardless of who they are supposed to be closer to. Great work, I agree, the picture worked well with your statement.
ReplyDeleteI like the fact that you chose to show that people can shift away from gender expectations. I am glad to see how much you compare yourself to the way your mom acts. I also like how you said your mom was tough. That she had the same fortitude that any father would have with their children, and raise them to have that same strong attitude.
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